Love and Like (Love Matters Part 2)

In Western culture we have become people that use the word love too trivial and some even too cheap. Some of us use the word at the dry-cleaners when a vicious stain we could not be removed and the dry-cleaners happened to remove it. “I love you man, you saved my life.” Behind the counter the person probably just smile at you thinking, “Dude, please it is a stain. It’s gone. Get over it.”

Or someone found your ring that you just lost on a dance floor and you say: “Dude, you found my ring, I ‘love you man.”


Love to most of us is a word to express how much we ‘love’ that donut at that shop in town, or how much we love that TV series with the zombies in them.

Love is a scary word and in Japan it is treated with more respect. In fact it is only used when you really mean it usually, except if they are very drunk, who well, happens everywhere.

In Japanese the word ‘Suki’ means either ‘like’ or ‘love’. There is a word ‘aishiteru’ for ‘to love’/’I love you’ but it is rarely used. Aishiteru is not used in a trivial way but only if a person has heartfelt serious feelings. It is more serious than ‘suki’ and ‘daisuki’ which means really like’

Remember last week when we talked about Kokuhaku, expressing one’s love? Today we are sharing with you another confession. Today’s sentence is:

“Kekkon O zentei ni otsukiai sasetekudasai”

Translated it means “I would love to have a relationship with you with the objective of an eventual marriage.”

It is very practical and great ways to start a relationship with someone you really want to marry someday. Some might say it is very romantic… and isn’t it a waste of time to date someone who is not looking to marry at any point in the future if you really wish to get married someday. This love expression helps to clear the air.

Here is a video on love and it teaches us a few words in phrases in Japanese. It also explains ‘aishiteru’ and ‘daisuki’ in greater detail:

Here is a link to Love Matters Part 1 if you missed it last week. Please follow the link: